Guest Post by Eva Martin of www.fit4motherhood.com
So there you are. Your little one has finally arrived and you are officially on your postpartum journey. Becoming a mother is an overwhelming experience. Indescribable joy mixed with pure exhaustion. While you’re still recovering from the physical effects of delivery, you may encounter that strange feeling like your body is not your body anymore.
When you experience birth and become a mother, you, nor your body will never be the same again. That’s just logic.
Still, the postpartum body image can be quite emotionally challenging for most of us. It’s not easy to feel feminine when you hardly have time to shower and you smell like puke. The first weeks with a newborn can be ruthless.
Hang in there, mama – it will pass.
Now, if you want to feel good about your body after having a baby, you must change your perception of BEAUTY. Instead of thinking about what beauty looks like, concentrate on answering this one question:
What beauty FEELS like for me?
To find out, start grabbing some time for yourself. How? Check out these wonderful tips below to help you feel beautiful postpartum.
1. Take care of your skin
Do the words “skincare routine” make you cringe right now?
I get it. You barely have time to shower every other day and dry shampoo has become your newest bathroom must-have, but don’t give up just yet. Just a few small changes can have a huge impact on the quality of your skin.
It takes just as little as 2 minutes a day to fit in some great skin care regimen.
All you need is to clean your face thoroughly before you go to sleep, moisturize and protect to keep those early wrinkles off. Just slather on some good moisturizer and a BB cream with high sunscreen before you hit the roads with a stroller.
That’s it. Nothing fancy. Additional face scrub just about twice a week will add some spark to your sleep-deprived face.
And, just in case you’d like to be super-fancy:
Invest in some good quality aloe drinking gel to boost the collagen production in your skin. Collagen tightens your skin which makes it look younger and more supple. Excellent for your mommy tummy skin, too!
2. Book a mom-baby photo shoot
Is the thought of getting yourself photo shoot-ready rather stressful? After you’ve had a baby the last thing that you want to do is to get in front of the camera.
I know how hard it can be – I’ve been there. Twice.
But I also know how important it is. Make yourself camera-ready and just do it. You may feel a bit uncomfortable at the beginning, but a good photographer will make you feel like a mom-goddess in no time! Besides, you’ll get a set of beautiful heart-warming images that you’ll treasure for years from now.
3. Embrace the fourth-trimester outfits
Forget about wearing your maternity clothes. While most of us don’t fit into our pre-pregnancy outfits, don’t let this put you off!
Sure, there’s no need to spend money on lots of new clothing while you’re in the process of getting back to your pre-pregnancy shape. But sometimes it feels great to buy and wear something new, even if you spend most of your time at home.
Pick a few comfortable and breastfeeding-friendly postpartum outfits like compression black leggings, maxi dress, oversized t-shirt, and nursing tank tops. Consider buying a few pieces of each and wear them until they wear out. Chose darker colors that not only make you look slimmer but also camouflage the countless milk leakages and baby’s spit-ups.
Opt for some colorful accessory to revive your outfit. For instance a scarf, that will be also useful to cover up when nursing in public if needed.
Have you been eyeing on that super-trendy pair of high-wasted jeans lately but you are not sure if they are a good fit for you?
Now is the perfect time to get them, seriously! No other piece of clothing will make you feel more superficial and trendy like high-wasted jean. It will hide your pouch and rolls, make your waist look slimmer and your legs longer.
Now, does this make you feel more confident? I bet it does!
When you become a mother, you won’t get many chances to dance on social events for a while, right? 🙂 But dance is so much more than just a social activity or great cardio.
It is scientifically proven that dance makes us happy!
Recent studies show that music and dance are very useful for our mental health, as they are one of the keys to happiness and satisfaction in life.
Here is why:
When you move in tune with the music, your brain releases endorphins (also called the hormones of happiness), that create a feeling of comfort, fun and power.
What’s more, as you dance, your muscles relax. A wonderful way to loosen up the tension built up in the deepest layers of the muscles.
So what’re you waiting for, mama? Put that Justin on!
Surround yourself with friends who support you, make you feel good and love you no matter what.
I can honestly say that having a “mama soulmate” literally saved my mental wellbeing. Without her, I would probably go crazy. Having a friend who’s also on the postpartum journey (no matter how far) and knows exactly how you feel is just priceless.
Let’s face it:
No one can fully understand what you are going through postpartum. Except for a woman who has experienced the same. Just the thought that there is someone who shares your feelings makes you instantly feel better. Because you know you are not alone.
Want to know the best part?
A “mama break”.
When the baby gets older, get someone to babysit, pack a little suitcase with fancy clothes, grab your bestie and take off for a “mama break”. Even two days out of the town ANYWHERE WITHOUT KIDS will be a balm to your soul. Although I can’t guarantee that you won’t be waking in the middle of the night searching for a baby to feed! Happened to me, lol.
6. Get a mobile hairstylist
Lets face it. Having your hair done at a beauty salon will be off the table for a few weeks.
But does that mean you hair should be a mess? No!
There are plenty of mobile hairstylists that will do your hair at the comforts of our home while your baby naps!
I’m so lucky my hairstylist has become also a good friend over the years. A few weeks after giving birth I complained to her my hair is a huge outgrown mess that I haven’t washed for a week. Two days later, she showed at my doorstep holding her stylist’s gear.
I was so thankful I was able to get my hair done without leaving the house and baby or begging someone to babysit.
The Bottom Line: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
Our postpartum bodies went through a lot of changes. It grew another human being inside and now produces all the nourishment he needs to keep him alive and healthy. For this, you must feel super-proud of yourself.
So what if your belly looks like you are still pregnant. Just get those high-waisted jeans on and shake it off like Beyonce!
Do you have a tip on how to feel pretty postpartum? What worked for you? Would love to read about it in the comments below!